[Not my writing: originally posted by @WNRStrangers on Twitter] Bandwidth1. When presented with an opportunity or request, ask yourself: Do I have the bandwidth for this? Can I show up for this fully? Am I saying yes out of obligation or inspiration? Don’t rush – delay2. It’s better to delay a decision than rush a yes… Continue reading How to say no with love
Category: Human connection
Beneath the surface
I think that the secret to being a great networker is the underlying belief that all people have a fascinating story lying just beneath the surface of everyday conversation. A story that is authentic, intimate and always, in some way or another, relatable. In this context, a conversation becomes an adventure: where can we go?… Continue reading Beneath the surface
Fire fighter: Why love gets put on hold
[The basic idea for this post emerged from a conversation with my good friend Chay on 13.05.2020, as we observed that, despite having a strong friendship, we rarely enjoyed each other’s company] Why do I so often spend more time maintaining weak relationships than enjoying strong relationships? Love + fear. Strong relationships are built on… Continue reading Fire fighter: Why love gets put on hold
Human instinct online: The ugly truth
For most of history, humans were separated in space and time. The story of an individual person’s life was only meaningful to a few members of the tribe – and outside of your tribe, you were nobody. Now the world is quite different. Thanks to social media, we all now have the power to produce +… Continue reading Human instinct online: The ugly truth
Feasting on validation
My WdKA takeover has left me feeling both wonderfully connected to other people and, at the same time, emotionally exhausted from battling to maintain integrity while absorbing people’s validation. I feel rather like a wealthy Tudor-age baron, who sits plump and jolly at the head of a banquet table, feasting on delicious fatty foods… enjoying… Continue reading Feasting on validation
Tell a bigger story
What is this immense conflict? There is a deep and dreadful guilt in me, that has paralysed me for days. Am I fighting perfectionism? Or is this a different issue? Today, as I ran along the harbour overlooked by a blazing orange sunset, I came to understand why I have felt guilt and paralysis for… Continue reading Tell a bigger story
In bed ’til lunchtime: A dilemma
Today I laid in bed, feeling numb, until lunchtime. I felt the burden of responsibilities that had been neglected for too long. In fact, as I started getting tasks out of the way, I soon realised that my mind was crammed full of small and insignificant tasks from days or even weeks ago, tasks that… Continue reading In bed ’til lunchtime: A dilemma
Breaking the ice
Breaking the ice feels incredible!! This morning I was full of anticipation – nervous, excited, tense for my upcoming podcast debut with Claudia. With a couple hours of thinking + writing I lowered my expectations as much as possible, pre-forgave my imperfections, entered the experimental mindset and reminded myself that its all a joke anyway! The… Continue reading Breaking the ice